Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Overcoming Self-Sabotage: Breaking The Cycle

The self-sabotage cycle, a common phenomenon that affects countless individuals (myself included) on their journey towards success and fulfilment. In this blog post, ‘Overcoming Self-Sabotage: Breaking The Cycle’ we’ll dive deep into understanding this habit, why we do it and the signs to recognise, plus, a simple guide on how to break the cycle and become the best versions of yourself.  Ever find yourself making progress towards your goals, only to suddenly derail your own efforts? If so please know you are not alone. This is the blog for you!  After years of struggling with bouts of anxiety, it’s no surprise that self-sabotage and I have become close friends. In the past (regrettably, it still happens) I have tried and failed to achieve goals. A recurring theme throughout my life. I never seemed to finish anything I started. This is something I am trying to change. In fact, it is one of my New Year’s resolutions. I made a list of stuff I had begun and needed to finish. However, I still make excuses for myself. Procrastinating, spending way too much time scrolling social media and so on. So, if you find yourself in a similar situation, join me as I explore the soul-wrenching habit of self-sabotage.  As an Amazon Associate, we earn a commission from qualifying purchases.  Some of the links on this post are affiliate links.  This means that if you click on the link and make a purchase we may earn a commission at no extra cost to you. Learn more here. What Is Self-Sabotage? Self-sabotage often stems from deep-seated beliefs and fears. Fear of failure, low self-esteem, unresolved past trauma, or even perfectionism. A never-ending cycle of unconsciously (or on occasions, consciously) undermining our own efforts, and therefore, preventing us from reaching our full potential.  These behaviours can manifest in various ways, such as procrastination and negative self-talk, self-doubt to the avoidance of challenges or opportunities. Moreso, it can also manifest in self-destructive behaviour.  Let me use myself as a clear example. My lifelong dream is to become a published author—it’s my passion and what I’ve wanted to do for as long as I can remember. However, I struggle with discipline when it comes to my writing. Daily, I find myself making excuses as to why I can’t dedicate just one hour to writing my first draft. These excuses range from feeling tired to needing to focus on blog work, or even waiting for summer to arrive. Why? Deep down, it’s likely because I’m afraid that I won’t be able to pull it off. Despite the work I’ve put into self-growth, remnants of self-limiting beliefs are still deeply ingrained in me. That’s why I’ve decided to write this blog—not only to help others but also to break this cycle of self-sabotage that I find myself caught in.  Understanding and addressing the root causes of self-sabotage is essential for breaking the cycle. Reasons Why You Self-Sabotage Which of the following resonates with you the most? Top 10 Signs Of Self-Sabotage  Recognising the signs of self-sabotage is the first step toward addressing and overcoming self-sabotaging behaviours. Note how many of the signs below you relate with the most.  Reclaim Your Identity – Lets Dig Deeper An important aspect of overcoming self-sabotage is reclaiming your identity. And what exactly do I mean by it you might ask? Well, reclaiming your identity requires rediscovering and embracing who you truly are, beyond the limiting beliefs and self-destructive behaviours that have held you back. I’m not going to lie, it’s a hard process, one that starts with acknowledging and valuing your unique strengths, passions, and aspirations. Sounds easy enough, however when your sense of self is overshadowed by fear or doubt, it becomes a tedious task. It’s doable, but challenging nonetheless. Reconnecting with your authentic self can be achieved by developing a stronger sense of self-worth and purpose. I’m well aware that those two words alone, ‘self-worth’ carry enough impact to make you run for the hills.  Because, how exactly do you develop a sense of self-worth?? Honestly? Many of the steps to overcome self-sabotage will undoubtedly provide you with the tools to develop a sense of self-worth. However, I believe it all starts with compassion and forgiveness for yourself. Reclaiming your identity through journaling is a powerful method for self-discovery and personal growth. Keeping a daily journal allows you the opportunity for the following:  Journal Prompts If you want to give journaling a try, or even if you are already someone who journals, we have put together some really helpful journal prompts to aid in reclaiming your identity. All you need to do is click on the download button below. Once you achieve some newfound clarity, pursuing goals that resonate with your true values and desires will become easier. This mindset shift moves you away from external expectations and negative self-perceptions, allowing you to reclaim your identity. With this solid foundation for positive change, you empower yourself to break free from self-sabotage and move forward with confidence and intention. Strategies For Overcoming Self-Sabotage 1. Cultivate Self-Compassion I find that self-kindness and self-compassion don’t come easy to most of us. On the contrary, most of the time we are our own worst critics. The expectations we place on ourselves only add to the burden of those existing expectations placed on our shoulders by society.  It’s important to remind ourselves that nobody is perfect and that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s what makes us human, after all. Aim to treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a loved one.  Want to delve deeper into self-compassion and how to show up for yourself? Check out our blog post right here! 2. Challenge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs We have all heard the phrase ‘Fake it til you make it’. Even Taylor Swift mentions it in her hit ‘I can do it with a broken heart’. Well, technically that’s the approach I took when faced with challenges. At some point

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